Just Breathe

[Jay]

Prior to our current illness, I had been studying martial arts. (I doubt I'll return as this is the 2nd time I've quit because of cancer). While I sometimes question my ability to use the techniques I've learned in real world situations, there's one I find myself using all the time: Controlled Breathing.

I wanted to share this basic breathing technique because I find that it does relax me whenever I'm feeling really anxious. I've used it at work prior to giving important presentations, I use it to steady myself for photos when I don't have a tripod, and of course, I've used it a ton these past few months to deal with the stresses of a sick spouse. It's a meditative technique, but there's no need to sit in any funky positions. I practice this breathing while driving (eyes open!), sitting, walking, biking, etc.. you name it. My wife even used it when she gave birth to our first born.

Here it is...

1. Using your stomach/diaphragm muscles, breathe in slowly through your nose and fill your lungs as much as you can.
2. Hold it for a second or two.
3. Exhale steady and slowly through your mouth. Try to prolong the exhale for as long as you can.
4. Repeat

[fightingfortlc]

I am most definitely willing to try anything. Thank you for sharing, Jay!

[kent]

Jay:

You are absolutely spot on with this recommendation. I was recently diagnosed with PTSD and my shrink has taught me to do the same thing.

To everyone: Get help! Get on antidepressants, take a walk, get away when it begins to feel overwhelming.

I thought I could handle it. I thought I was strong enough. Now I have PTSD which is a horrible feeling! I am constantly on edge and my brain is fried. I have panic attacks. I can't think or concentrate. It really sucks.

As my doctor explained: The human brain can handle only so much stress. When you exceed your limit your brain chemistry is permanently altered.

[JBaker]

Kent, Jay,

Well I am now five+ yrs out of losing my wife after the three yr ordeal... Well I can tell I am not mentally as quick as I once was. I am not way out of my mind of course, but I can tell I am not as quick thinking of things nor as sharp, call it 'brain farts' I guess. I do not know if it was the cancer and all the other stresses at the time or what but I can tell I am not 100% anymore. I blame it at times on 'sumheimers' or just now firmly into my 40's and need a middle age crisis or whatever suits the need at the time. It is what it is I guess.

Wish you the best for what you are going through and how it is affecting you though.

Jim