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Postby Abby » Thu Mar 27, 2008 11:57 am

We got Jeff's scan results yesterday and the cancer is popping up everywhere in his abdominal area. We haven't made treatment/hospice decisions yet. I think Jeff is done with any treatments that would require him to go to the hospital or make him feel even more sick.
I am numb right now and cried all I could yesterday. I woke up today with determination, but then talked to Jeff and he said that treatment is most likely not the route that he will take.
When I asked the oncologist how long she thought given the information and her experience she thought about 2 months. It is just so hard to type now. I can't imagine not being able to lay in bed with him, fight with him, touch him, travel with him. All the things we should have are slipping away.
Thanks for reading.
-Abby

Husband diagnosed 08/05 age 28; Stage IV colon cancer; reoccurence & surgery 06/07;reoccurence 03/08;enter hospice 04/08; passed away February 4, 2009.
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Postby mherynk » Thu Mar 27, 2008 2:51 pm

Your not alone.
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Postby JBaker » Fri Mar 28, 2008 6:32 am

Spend as much time as possible with him and discuss life in general and your love for him and all the times of enjoyment. Also make sure to discuss any issues that have come between you to make sure you have a clean heart. Also discuss your future and children's future if there are any. Always good to make decisions in the future knowing your spouse would be in agreement.

Most of all love him while he is here and re-assure each other of your commitment to each other.

Jim
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I just wanted to say

Postby mercyriver » Mon Mar 31, 2008 12:00 pm

I am sorry. I can only imagine your pain.

offering you a cyber ~hug~

Becki
Husband has Testicular Cancer, currently under watching to see how sucsessful his 11/07 surgery was. He had 3 rounds of BEP chemo 1/07. I am a stay at home mother of three girls and I school the two oldest at home.
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Postby kristak » Tue Apr 01, 2008 6:26 pm

Abby,

I'm so sorry to hear about this. I lost Cory almost 6 weeks ago. He didn't end up in hospice, and I think that was his decision, so I can't say much about that. But if you ever need to talk to someone, let me know.

Krista
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Sorry to hear

Postby MB_SPOUSE_ACC » Wed Apr 23, 2008 7:00 pm

I am so sorry to hear about your husband Abby. We feel your pain and give you hugs.
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Postby Abby » Thu Apr 24, 2008 6:02 pm

Thank you all so much. Your simple comments mean so much. When other people who have not experienced supporting a spouse thru cancer says I understand or lean on me, it just is different. When people here offer those words they go to my core because they come from yours. Thank you all for you sympathetic words.
-Abby

Husband diagnosed 08/05 age 28; Stage IV colon cancer; reoccurence & surgery 06/07;reoccurence 03/08;enter hospice 04/08; passed away February 4, 2009.
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